Contrary to popular opinion, consensual nonmonogamy doesn’t always entail group sex (threesomes, orgies, etc.), although is can support that option. And while we’re on that subject… Take a look at the people around you. If you’re in the U.S., about 1 in 10 women, and 1 in 5 men, have had a sexual experience involving […]
Are you curious about consensual nonmonogamy? How can you broach this topic with others? Tonight in Denver, I’ll be leading a public conversation: Consensual Non-Monogamy: Sex, Love and Fairness . As a resource for attendees and others, here’s a list of Denver-area resources on various kinds of consensual nonmonogamy.
What really counts as a relationship? Especially as an intimate or important relationship? That’s the topic of this month’s free sample chapter from my new book, Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life. I ask people about their relationships fairly often (surprise, surprise). I’ve noticed something interesting that generally holds true, regardless of whether people […]
I’ve been meaning to do a video to explain what the Relationship Escalator is, and how it affects the kinds of intimate relationships that people have. But, you know, I’ve been busy writing and publishing a book on that topic: Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator. In the meantime, I found this video from 2015, by […]
As I’m preparing the first print edition of my book, Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator, I’ve updated the free sneak preview. It’s been expanded to include the Preface, Introduction, Chapter 1, and now the complete Chapter 2. I’ve also posted the detailed Table of Contents. The subheadings for each chapter can give you an idea of the […]
The “escalator” concept is useful for all sorts of relationships! I just was looking over inbound links to this website and found this great post from SugarButch Chronicles about power exchange in kink: “As related to the relationship escalator, I use the term ‘power escalator’ to mean that in relationships based on authority exchange […]
I first began writing about unconventional relationships in 2012, when I launched the blog SoloPoly.net. It was there that I published the post that triggered the entire Off the Escalator project: Riding the Relationship Escalator or Not? That post received wide attention from all kinds of places, not just the polysphere. I was glad that I […]
Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life is a new book about intimate relationships that don’t follow the traditional path. The first book in the Off the Escalator series, it’s based on over 1500 responses to a survey where people shared their experiences with unconventional intimacy. Buy the Kindle ebook for $9.99 An excellent value, this […]
As I prepare to publish the first book in this series, Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator, I’m assembling the best resources I’ve found related to all sorts of unconventional intimate relationships. I’ve just published a Resources page to gather these. Check it out! To suggest a resource to add, please use the Contact page.