What really counts as a relationship? Especially as an intimate or important relationship? That’s the topic of this month’s free sample chapter from my new book, Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life. I ask people about their relationships fairly often (surprise, surprise). I’ve noticed something interesting that generally holds true, regardless of whether people […]
Video explaining the Relationship Escalator
I’ve been meaning to do a video to explain what the Relationship Escalator is, and how it affects the kinds of intimate relationships that people have. But, you know, I’ve been busy writing and publishing a book on that topic: Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator. In the meantime, I found this video from 2015, by […]
Free download for February: Book chapter on going solo
I first began writing about unconventional relationships in 2012, when I launched the blog SoloPoly.net. It was there that I published the post that triggered the entire Off the Escalator project: Riding the Relationship Escalator or Not? That post received wide attention from all kinds of places, not just the polysphere. I was glad that I […]
Book Now Available, Get it at Amazon!
Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life is a new book about intimate relationships that don’t follow the traditional path. The first book in the Off the Escalator series, it’s based on over 1500 responses to a survey where people shared their experiences with unconventional intimacy. Buy the Kindle ebook for $9.99 An excellent value, this […]
Table of Contents for Book 1
I’ve been working nonstop for the last month to finalize Book 1 for publication. I’m nearly there, it’ll be out in 2-3 weeks! Want to know exactly what it will contain? Here’s the table of contents. Enjoy!
Yes, I’m still working on this book. Preview of chapters done so far
Still making progress, even though I’ve been rather quiet about it. I’d hoped to be blogging more here, but it’s enough just to focus on finishing the editing process. I’d originally hoped to publish this book by the end of 2015. The editing process is proving to be much more involved than I anticipated, and […]
Trust, the antidote to jealousy
Karen, a reader of this blog, wanted to know what people who responded to my survey had to say about jealousy and trust in unconventional relationships. (You can suggest a topic, too.) Jealousy is a painfully intense, complex emotional reaction that can cripple relationships — and it happens in traditional relationships, as well as unconventional […]
“Asexual relationships give me the freedom to be myself” — Marie’s story
One of the best surprises of my survey on unconventional relationships were the many thoughtful responses I received from people who are asexual — that is, they experience little or no sexual attraction. Sex typically plays little or no role in the deep bonds of love and commitment that asexual people form in relationships. I treasured […]
Themes off the Escalator: What do you want to hear about?
Over 1500 people responded to my survey on unconventional relationships. They had a lot to say, and I’m sure you don’t want to wait for my book to start hearing some of it! As I finish editing and publishing the first book from this project, I’d like to start publishing on this blog a few […]
Project progress: 3 rules that are helping to shape my book
I’ve been busy, busy, busy revising my original manuscript for the first book in the Off the Escalator series — slimming it down from a gargantuan 105,000 words to around 60-70,000 words. For awhile I was really struggling with how to do this, especially how to better manage integrating quotes curated from over 1000 surveys. […]