As I prepare to publish the first book in this series, Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator, I’m assembling the best resources I’ve found related to all sorts of unconventional intimate relationships. I’ve just published a Resources page to gather these. Check it out! To suggest a resource to add, please use the Contact page.
Psychology Today jealousy article shows why Off the Escalator books are needed
The cover story of the November 2016 issue of Psychology Today caught my attention in the grocery store yesterday: Listening to Jealousy, by Sara Eckel. This lengthy feature explores several research-based insights into how jealousy works in the context of intimate relationships — and how the people who experience jealousy, or deal with its effects, can better […]
Amy Gahran interviewed on The Mac Observer podcast
Today’s Daily Observations podcast from The Mac Observer features an interview with me by Jeff Gamet. We mainly discuss the process I’m using to research, create, and publish the Off the Escalator book series. Give it a listen, and you’ll see why this has taken four years so far — and why it’s all worth […]
Sneak preview of Book 1 now available!
I’ve been working really hard on this project. It’s taken me longer than expected, but I’m nearly ready to publish. The first two books in the Off the Escalator series are written, and in final production. The first book will be available for sale in January 2017, if not sooner. Want a sneak preview? Subscribe […]
Yes, I’m still working on this book. Preview of chapters done so far
Still making progress, even though I’ve been rather quiet about it. I’d hoped to be blogging more here, but it’s enough just to focus on finishing the editing process. I’d originally hoped to publish this book by the end of 2015. The editing process is proving to be much more involved than I anticipated, and […]
Trust, the antidote to jealousy
Karen, a reader of this blog, wanted to know what people who responded to my survey had to say about jealousy and trust in unconventional relationships. (You can suggest a topic, too.) Jealousy is a painfully intense, complex emotional reaction that can cripple relationships — and it happens in traditional relationships, as well as unconventional […]
“Asexual relationships give me the freedom to be myself” — Marie’s story
One of the best surprises of my survey on unconventional relationships were the many thoughtful responses I received from people who are asexual — that is, they experience little or no sexual attraction. Sex typically plays little or no role in the deep bonds of love and commitment that asexual people form in relationships. I treasured […]
Themes off the Escalator: What do you want to hear about?
Over 1500 people responded to my survey on unconventional relationships. They had a lot to say, and I’m sure you don’t want to wait for my book to start hearing some of it! As I finish editing and publishing the first book from this project, I’d like to start publishing on this blog a few […]
Philly.com shows polyamory is about people, not just couples/families
In recent years, mainstream media coverage of polyamory (a popular approach to consensual nonmonogamy) has been increasing. But usually, it focuses on the forms of polyamory that resemble conventional monogamy in significant ways: Family-style polyamory, where more than two adults with overlapping intimate relationships also live with (or at least very near) each other and […]
Project progress: 3 rules that are helping to shape my book
I’ve been busy, busy, busy revising my original manuscript for the first book in the Off the Escalator series — slimming it down from a gargantuan 105,000 words to around 60-70,000 words. For awhile I was really struggling with how to do this, especially how to better manage integrating quotes curated from over 1000 surveys. […]