Featuring real stories and insights from hundreds of people, Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator explores a wide range of unusual intimate relationships. This includes consensual nonmonogamy, partners who choose not to live together, intimacy without sex and/or romance, deep connections that pause and resume, and much more. This introduction to relationship diversity is both accessible and surprising.
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Just in time for the GDPR deadline, I’ve updated this site’s privacy policy. I’ve made it as plain-language as possible, with minimal legalese. I understand that a lot of the information that I collect for this book project, especially via surveys and interviews, is pretty sensitive to most people. Unconventional relationships are a pretty stigmatized […]
Contrary to popular opinion, consensual nonmonogamy doesn’t always entail group sex (threesomes, orgies, etc.), although is can support that option. And while we’re on that subject… Take a look at the people around you. If you’re in the U.S., about 1 in 10 women, and 1 in 5 men, have had a sexual experience involving […]
Are you curious about consensual nonmonogamy? How can you broach this topic with others? Tonight in Denver, I’ll be leading a public conversation: Consensual Non-Monogamy: Sex, Love and Fairness . As a resource for attendees and others, here’s a list of Denver-area resources on various kinds of consensual nonmonogamy.
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You probably already know a lot about this.
The “Relationship Escalator” is society’s bundle of customs for intimate relationships: monogamy, living together, marriage and more, ideally until death do you part. Beyond this, it might not be obvious what your relationship options are. (That’s the short version; here’s a little more detail.)
From consensual nonmonogamy (including polyamory and swinging), to asexuality, to pause/play relationships and more, this groundbreaking new book offers a wealth of insights, experiences and perspectives on uncommon relationship choices.
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Based on over 1500 detailed responses to a survey, Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator features real stories and insights from hundreds of real people. The first in a series of books from the Off the Escalator Project, this introduction to relationship diversity is both accessible and surprising.
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